A collection of stories written by men and women in mixed-orientation relationships. These are stories of couples who stayed together after the husband or wife came out, an outcome that is possible but is too often overlooked. Although there are many stories available describing the experiences of spouses who separated after a husband or wife disclosed being gay, lesbian, or bisexual, few reports about couples who stayed married are readily available. Making their voices heard is the reason for this "Out Together" project.
Personal Stories – Out Together
Married man grapples with bisexual urges and being faithful to wife, seeks advice / Queerty
After marriage, it stopped, but resurfaced. It happens once in a while. It depends on the person himself and what he prefers. Will you be accepting? Who knows? What do you think?
She’s straight, he’s bisexual. How they make a mixed-orientation marriage work
This is the fifth and final story of a five-part series on how alternative relationships are reshaping love in Canada. What she found changed their marriage forever. Don had been unfaithful. Until that moment, Jill had assumed her husband and best friend of nearly 30 years was as straight as she was.
Men who live in conventional marriages and at the same time have significant love-sex relationships with members of their own sex are largely an invisible group in our society. However, there is evidence to suggest that they are not rare, only rarely identified. How these men perceive themselves, reconcile the ordinary aspects of their lives with their atypical sexuality, and conduct themselves in marriage and family life are the focus of this study. Particular attention is paid to two major paradoxes in their lives: the contradiction between their heterosexual public identity which places them comfortably in the mainstream of society and their stigmatized and forbidden homosexual desires and behavior; and the ethical issue of deceiving their wives as well as others to whom they are intimately related.